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Energy and frequencies, what you tune into is what you will be affected by. It's like your soul senses a frequency responds to it and is what it is because of it.

You have the power to tune in and out of frequencies. How do you choose to be a positive light when negativity creeps in from every avenue.

Your mind is a powerful tool and it links to your soul in such that your mind controls what your soul is exposed to. 

So then what affects the mind? Everything around us feeds it, control your environment, expose yourself to laughter to innocence to nature to productivity, feed your mind with positive influences so your soul can be open to the right frequencies.

Sometimes walking away from a conflict is a medicine for your soul. Sometimes holding your thoughts is a cure. Sometimes you just need to change the frequency.

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Getting help for a problem is weird. I mean you have to admit you have one admit you don't know what to do about it submit yourself to someone else's interpretation of how to deal with it and hope that it solves.

Change is so difficult sometimes and it brings me back to reading about the mind is a cognitive miser. I don't want to spend any unnecessary thinking energy on something I've already developed a pattern for whether it be healthy or not. If I'm a hot headed lunatic that's what I am don't tell me to learn new ways of approaching a difficult situation. I don't want to do work my mind is pleading it's just lazy by nature. 

People say it's better in the long run it makes for a better you, be that as it may. When shit hits the fan you just deal with it your mind deals with it, when you are given the choice to be you and use the unhealthy mechanisms you have adopted to deal with conflict as opposed to being more pragmatic, your lazy mind always chooses the former.

Problem seems to be giving your lazy mind the power to control your future. What then can you do to control the minds laziness and save yourself heartache and pain down the road. How does one combat your mind when you are your mind.

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The only thing we crave is a connection to a another being and some call that love.  What are you to do then if love is taken away from you. In most cases as in mine what one realizes is that love is not confined to one person one relationship. 
Children give the most pure form of love, parents give the most accepting form of love, friends give the most compassionate form of love. Once you give credit to this love the one that was taken away doesn't hold much power again. 
What about finding love within yourself, who knows what good you can do when you feed yourself exactly what you're hungry for. Open your heart to yourself and listen and commit, Noone else can do it like you can. Could it be that the best love you can ever know is one that once awakened can never be taken away and can only grow as you become more aware of how to serve yourself. 
It's a beautiful thing to think about that the most supreme being has given us the ability to love and we crave love and to love and how simply perfect will it be if we first do this for ourselves. Who can then have power over you if you are taking care of your every need your most basic need especially. Love yourself learn to love yourself struggle to love yourself. 
When it happens I believe you can love others in a way that is not self seeking just for the benefit of sharing good energy. You will love not to feel good about yourself but because you are already good with yourself you love simply to feel better.